District 2240 Newsletter
(1/22/2025)

Long-Term Stays - Saying goodbye to my first host family felt like losing a piece of myself

Agáta Žofková, USA

I apologise for taking so long to write another article, but the past month has been one of the most challenging I’ve experienced during my exchange. I’m now writing from my second host family’s home and am still adjusting to the changes it has brought. Looking back, I can’t even imagine how hard it would have been if my first family hadn’t welcomed me with so much love and care.

November was truly a crazy month. I came down with pneumonia, which was challenging enough on its own, and on top of that, I had an unexpected visit to the dentist, where I paid $350 for a five-minute procedure. Just as I was starting to recover from all of this, it was time to pack up and move to a new family. No one warned us that changing host families could be such a challenge, and no one prepared me for the overwhelming sense of sadness and loss when I had to say goodbye to the first family, who had become a true home for me.

Packing was emotionally exhausting. My room, which I had grown to love over three and a half months, suddenly turned into an empty, cold space. I couldn't believe how many things I had managed to accumulate. Every little item I placed into my suitcase reminded me of experiences, moments of laughter, and the feeling of belonging to this family. When moving day finally came, we all tried to delay the moment when I would have to leave. I cried, my host mum cried, and even the kids shed tears.

On the way to my new host family, my host mum said something that touched me deeply: "When you arrived, you said you hoped that when the time came to leave, you'd feel sad because it would mean you'd found people who reminded you of home. I think you’ve done that, Agi. You’re on the right path."

Saying goodbye felt like losing a part of myself. As my host mum hugged me and gave me one last kiss on the cheek, I felt like I was leaving behind something so real and profound that it could never be replaced. But in that very moment, I realised that I would never be alone again. No matter what happens in my life, I will always have a place to return to, where I’ll be heard, where I’ll feel loved, and where I can pour out my heart and share my troubles.

My second family is also very kind, and although they are completely different from my first family, I feel welcomed by them. They have two dogs, two cats, and a host sister with whom I share a house. The older host brother is currently at university, and the other one is already married. It’s a big change – instead of the noise of small children and daily chaos, there’s more peace here. However, I quickly realised that this family will provide me with different experiences and opportunities, and that’s what it’s all about.
 
My first host family gave me something truly special. They showed me so much love and care that it completely overwhelmed me. They attended all my matches, supported my charity events, and when I had a bad day, they brought me coffee and tried to cheer me up with small gestures that meant everything to me. They even tried to replicate rituals I know from my real mum, like lighting candles, just to make me feel better.
 
When I was packing, I cried. When we said goodbye, I cried. But one thing I know for sure – I never believed something like this could happen with anyone other than my real family. Nicole, TJ, Anniko, and Anders, you gave me something that no one else can give me. You will always be my family, and I know that whenever I need it, I will have a place to return to. Thank you for everything.
 

A message that my host mum wrote to my mum:

Now I feel some of what you must have felt when Agi came to us... I’m looking forward to her next chapter, but it makes me sad that we have to let her go and leave her with a new family... one she doesn’t know. It was heart-wrenching. She’s an amazing little girl, and we are very grateful that we were able to be part of her journey and that she will forever remain a part of our family.

What a bittersweet day. We are so grateful to have had the opportunity for Agi to live with us for the last 3.5 months, to forever become part of our family, but she now moves to her second family. We know they will love her too because she is amazing and we are excited to hear all the adventures she has in this next chapter of her exchange year, but we will miss her too...our house already does not feel the same. Thanks for letting us be part of your journey, Agi. We love you!